How to communicate with your Ex | Child Custody

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So you all are no longer together

    Going through a breakup can be hard, especially when at the beginning of the relationship, you'd never believe you'd be single again. Sometimes, when people's roles in your life end, although we can't see it, it is most likely a hidden blessing. When things like this occur it is important to keep your mental health in tact by seeking counseling if necessary or showing yourself love by doing something that you truly enjoy. This helps to maintain or raise your self esteem so that you can continue a happy, mentally healthy life. 

    When children are involved, make sure you continue a relationship with them as well. This can negatively impact that child if you abruptly end the relationship with them only because the relationship with your ex has ended. Children appear to be happier and have a higher confidence when both natural parents are involved with their upbringing. It is never ok to keep the child away from one parent or the other. Check out my article on visitation to successfully maintain a healthy relationship with your child and seek visitation. If you try to maintain the relationship with your child and your ex refuses to let you, that is called parental alienation and the other parent can actually lose custody if this poor behavior continues, over any amount of time.

Communication and Child Custody

In the very first episode of my podcast, I speak about the best way to communicate with your ex and I'm going to give you that tip, now. Do not speak over the phone with them, at all. It is very important that you keep a record of everything said and promised. Try texting, instead. You don't want to say anything inappropriate, nor do you want to be accused of saying anything inappropriate. Click here to listen to my podcast as of October 3rd, 2022, to hear the full episode on "What is custody?". If you hire an attorney, please have all of your evidence catalogued in a way that is easy to read. If you need help organizing your evidence that service is $275 for 2hours. You will receive a customized timeline as well. Especially, if you are intentionally being kept away from your child, you want to be able to prove this in court. Judges love visual aides.

    It may also be possible to record your calls as another means to collect evidence. Beware of recording calls in your state. In certain states, it may be illegal to record calls so proceed with caution. However, a work around may be to write out a transcript of the call to submit for evidence. Whether you are going to court or not, I'd like to call this your A.I.R(agreed insurance recording). When dealing with high stress, simply take in a deep breath. We all need air to breathe, it is our lifeline. If something was said such as a promised visit or mutual agreement made and for whatever reason, it is not followed through, in court you can reach for your lifeline. Your air can diffuse certain high conflict situations and seemingly clarify other complicating issues. If used correctly, it can discredit your ex and help you to receive favorable outcomes in your court proceedings.

K.I.S.S. Method

    When communicating with your ex, always be sure to keep it short and sweet. There is no need to dwell on what was done in the past to one another, nor is there a need to blame. communicate only about the child. You have the right to be involved in your child's life whether they want you to or not. Please keep in mind I am speaking to those parents who love, honor, protect and respect their children.

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